Happy New Year everyone!
We are finally home from our 2+ weeks of cross-country Christmas travel. This morning I woke up and was actually really confused as to where I was, it took me a second to realize I was in my own bed--ha! It was so nice to spend time with family and friends in both Michigan and Oregon, and it was the perfect way to end what's been an amazing year! And as fun as the last few weeks have been, I'm actually really happy to be back in Tahoe and for life to go back to normal a little bit.
Anyway, now that the new year is officially upon us, everyone seems to be talking about their resolutions. I am a huge list maker and I love setting goals all the time of things I'd like to get accomplished. I have lots of things, both big and small, that I'd like to see happen in 2013. However, I plan on not just setting goals here in January, but rather doing it consistently throughout the year. In the coming weeks, I'll be sharing more about some of my for goals January, so stay tuned!
However, as far as resolutions go for 2013, I'm only making one this year.
Be more mindful with my time
I feel like I'm constantly complaining how time goes by so fast, and so this year I'm not going to sit around and play the victim and act like there is nothing I can do about it. Each day we're given is a gift, but I'm realizing that often I don't treat my time that way and spend way too much of it on things that are unimportant. That's why my goal for 2013 is to really be mindful of how I'm spending my precious time, and stop wasting it on stupid things. All too often I wish I had more time for certain things, but in reality, how I spend my time is a choice and if I want to get something done, I need to make it a priority.
For me, my top three priorities are this:
(And when I say my health, it's not in a vain way--I just mean that making sure I'm eating healthy food, have enough time to get up move/get fresh air each day, and get enough sleep is important to me)
However, if someone took a snapshot of how I currently spend my time, I know that those three things would not be reflected in how I'm actually living. So that's why this year I want to be more aware of how I'm spending my time and really making sure that I'm being mindful that it lines up with these three priorities
This means consistently asking myself, would it be a better use of my time to...
Stay up late and watch this episode of Friends that I've seen 5 times?
Get in bed so I get a good night's sleep and feel rested for the next day?
Talk to friends on gchat during the day, causing me to be less productive with work?
Pick up the phone and call a friend to catch up?
Checking People.com/US Weekly during the day for a little break?
Just staying focused on my work so I can spend time with Cam when he gets home?
Constantly checking Facebook/Instagram on my phone throughout the day?
Using that time to read my Bible or a good book that I'll enjoy?
Losing my temper and holding a grudge with people I love?
Letting go of my pride, forgiving people, and moving on?
I want to constantly ask myself questions like these this year and really be more aware of just how much time I'm spending on certain things. Our time can get sucked away in such sneaky ways that often we don't even realize it's happening.
I'll admit that I'm guilty of constantly checking up on celebrity gossip and that's something I want to put a stop to this year. During the day, I'll want to take a little break from work so I'll check People or US Weekly, and it's just dumb. So dumb. I don't need all this useless information taking up space in my brain, so I'm really going to work on not spending my time on that and going outside or doing something else if I need a break during the work day. I'm not saying I'll never read another one of those magazines again; for instance, if we're travelling or I'm getting my hair done or something and I happen to read People, totally fine. I just don't need to keep up with celebrity gossip on a daily basis, and there are much more valuable things I could be spending my time on.
Also, I know I'm not alone here but social media is something that I want to be much more diligent about setting limits with. "Oh I'll just go on Facebook for 5 minutes" or "I'm just going to look something up on Pinterest really quick" (ha, sick joke) often turns into a much larger investment of time. And it's tough when all this stuff is constantly accessible on my phone, because it makes it so easy to do. What I don't realize is even if I do just check something on my phone for 5 or 10 minutes, those small chunks of time throughout the day really add up. And I'm not trying to say social media is bad, because I don't think that it is. I love Instagram, Pinterest, and Facebook and I don't plan to stop using them. However, it's just so easy to let them suck away more precious time than I'd like so I am really going to try to be better about guarding my time this year.
As far as blogging goes, it's time-consuming and is not a top priority for me in terms of my life. However, it is also something that I really enjoy and just because it's not a top priority, doesn't mean it's not a priority at all and I have no intention of giving it up. I just need to figure out a balance to where it fits in my life in a way that works. I love having time to sit down and write, share a little slice of my life, and connect with other bloggers. However, I'll often stay up way past my bed time blogging, as that's the time that's most convenient for me...but that's not healthy. I can't choose blogging over sleep, and if that means less posts per week, than that's what it means. At the same time, I do enjoy my blog and want to make sure I'm allocating enough time for it each week. It's a work in progress!
And finally, beyond just not letting my time get sucked away by these things this year, I want to make sure that I am not wasting time on negative emotions. I'll admit, I can be fairly hot-tempered and reactive. I tend to get angry over insignificant things, and then struggle with letting go of that anger sometimes. I am stubborn and not always the best at saying I'm sorry. If I get upset, I'm not good at just resolving the situation and moving on, instead I like to stay mad for far too long.
And that's such a waste.
I am so blessed with a loving husband, a wonderful family, and great friends. But no one is perfect. People are going to upset me from time to time and I'm going to upset them, that's life. But if someone does something to make me mad, I need to forgive them and move on instead of holding grudges and staying mad. I am so blessed to have people in my life who have show me so much grace all the time, this year I want to focus on doing that to others. It's a shame to look back and recall times times where I stayed in a bad mood for far too long instead of just snapping out of it, and I don't want to do that this year. Especially in light of what happened in Newtown last month, it seems especially silly to waste a single second this year being angry unnecessarily over anything.
So whether it's a barista at Starbucks that messes up my order or my husband who forgets to pick up something up on his way home from work, I am going to work on letting it go. To not sweat the small stuff and let little things ruin my day. To show people kindness and forgiveness. And to just be happy even when everything is not perfect. Because I'm certainly not perfect, so I shouldn't expect other people around me to be either.
And finally, I just want to be fully engaged in my own life. Not miss things because I'm looking down at my phone, too busy paying attention to what other people are doing. My time is precious and I want to invest it in things that matter, not things that are insignificant. And although it's easier said than done, I'm hoping that awareness is the first step to positive changes.
If you're still reading this post, I'm impressed :) It ended up being much longer than I intended, but it feels great to write these things in my heart out and see them in black and white. Also, all images used in this post can be found here.
What about you? Did you make any resolutions for 2013? I'd love to hear about them! Xoxo
PS: In case you missed it, here's my review of 2012 :)